THE BUCKET LIST
by Tiffany Masters
Is the term “Bucket List” in your vocabulary? I’m just curious, because it’s recently been added to Webster’s Dictionary, and is becoming more popular everyday. Most other countries say “Now or never,” meaning the same thing. Are you so caught up in work with the every day grind that you have forgotten your list of dreams?
For those unfamiliar:
Definition of bucket list
• a number of experiences or achievements that a person hopes to have or accomplish during their lifetime: making this trip is the first thing on my bucket list
Origin: early 21st century: from the phrase kick the bucket ‘die’, popularized by the 2007 movie, The Bucket List
The Bucket List
When I saw the movie, The Bucket List, (a billionaire and a working class mechanic both discover that they have terminal illnesses and decide to leave the hospital to do everything they ever wanted, before they “kicked the bucket”), I was encouraged to start writing a list of my own goals and things I wanted to try.
I’m finding myself more excited each day about all that is ahead. And, yes, I’m finding it easier to live each day as if it were the last. That’s on my Bucket List!
I’ve noticed that my friends who don’t have bucket lists (or dreams or plans for the rest of their lives) are beginning to experience illnesses or depression. Americans wake up each day and worry about bills, jobs, appearance, and what other people think, far too much. Most everyone I know is stressed and in a midlife crisis.
Wikipedia: Midlife crisis is a term coined in 1965 by psychologist and social analyst Elliott Jaques, stating a time where adults come to realize their own mortality and how much time is left in their life.  A midlife crisis is experienced by many people during the midlife transition when they realize that life may be more than halfway over. Sometimes, a crisis can be triggered by transitions experienced in these years, such as andropause or menopause, the death of parents, or other causes of grief,
unemployment or underemployment, realizing that a job or career is hated, but not knowing how else to earn an equivalent living, or children leaving home. People may reassess their achievements in terms of their dreams. The result may be a desire to make significant changes in core aspects of day-to-day life or situations, such as in career, work-life balance, marriage, romantic relationships, large expenditures, or physical appearance.
I wanted to make a change in my life by helping others. Living is stepping out of your comfort zone. So in order to inspire my friends to do Bucket List checks with me, I started a website: www.LasVegasBucketList.com. They have been watching us do crazy things every day on my blog around the world. We are running with the bulls in Spain, renting celebrities like Charlie Sheen to party with you in a nightclub booth, having your favorite celebrity get ordained and marry you, have Slash play at your wedding reception, island-hopping in Greece, getting concealed gun permits, scuba diving with great whites, learning how to Salsa dance with a hot Cuban in Mexico, that doesn’t speak a lick of English. (THAT’S a story coming soon. Ahhhh, Papi! Ole’!), shooting military tanks with ex-Navy Seals in the desert (men love to play G.I. Joe), watching ping pong shows from hookers in Thailand, walking on fire, snorkeling with whale sharks, learning Spanish while hiking Mayan ruins, and so much more. Your imagination is the limit. The great part about what I’m doing is: if you can’t think of what you want on your list, then I’ll do the planning for you, and that’s an adventure in itself!
We have over a thousand members that signed up to make friends with one another, accomplishing their Bucket List dreams. One thing I have found in common with them is they want to have a partner in crime. They want someone to share in the moment when they cross the finish line of a marathon or to give a high-five slap when they reach the top of Mt. Kilimanjaro. The social network I have created does just that! When Shannon (my Bucket List travel partner) and I went to Thailand, we wanted to ride elephants and go to strip clubs in Bangkok. I would have never been able to learn about “lady boys”, if I didn’t have her with me. Most men would think we were crazy and not let us do the things we were curious about. Even worse, boyfriends would want to go! Lol We crashed Super Bowl and had amazing seats, thanks to our Bucket List partnership.
Since May of 2012, we have checked off hundreds of goals. Currently, I am found on www.Meetup.com/LasVegasBucketList. Please feel free to join my free membership and suggest a dream of your own. The answer to the midlife crisis is to create a Bucket List.
I have stepped out of hosting nightlife and am coaching members to “Bucket and Do it!” This winter I am in Playa Del Carmen setting things up, like shark diving and skydiving for you. I chickened out of doing the shark thing myself, but did say yes to Skydive Playa. Jerry, the owner, took me up 10,000 feet, strapped into his body by 4 hooks. I felt confident with him since he has done over 8,000 jumps, but was nervous sitting in the plane for the twenty-minute climb, playing mind games. The butterflies tickled my stomach as I prayed to God, thanking him for everything I had in my lifetime. Oh ya, I was also begging for forgiveness for a few of those unwise choices I made during my rock star groupie era. Many things race through your head as you sit unable to speak due to the sound of the roaring engine. We stepped out on the wing of the plane and counted to three. The force of the wind was cold and strong, and reminded me of a hurricane. I looked down below us and saw pillows of clouds. There was no looking back as we stood on the wing of the plane. I looked at the cameraman filming me and screamed, “Bucket!” as we dove forward, tumbling us in a forward circle. Jerry pulled my head back 5 seconds later and the cameraman was falling right in front of us. There are no words to describe the adrenaline rush. I waved my hands and pumped my fists screaming “wooooo hoooooo,” hoping that I didn’t swallow a bug. I look down and see below is the most beautiful turquoise blue ocean. Less than a minute goes by when Jerry pulls the shoot. My feet fly forward and we drift away from the cameraman. Everything is quiet as we slowly drift through the clouds, making our way with precise direction to the sandy white beach.
This was the most exciting 3 minutes of my life. Then again, I tell every man that. HA! My story here is to not lose that inner child in you. We dreamed it when we were younger. Now you found the connection to make this happen. Your midlife crisis can be erased by a simple goal to start LIVING again. You don’t need to be co-dependent to start living your life. It’s you who closes your eyes and sleeps at night and opens them in the morning with thoughts of how your day is going to be.
I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes:
“Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming – ‘WOW – What a Ride!’” ~ Hunter S. Thompson