SEX AND SIN CITY
By Lilith Diana
Sex and Sin City is an ongoing feature by STRIPLV writer, Lilith Diana, as she shares with us her spunky and erotic look into her sometimes informational, sometimes steamy moments and thoughts on sex.
ORAL SEX FOR HIM
I’d like to think I’m pretty good at oral sex.
Well, besides my very first experience, where I was harshly critiqued after the fact because all I did was lick it. But I was like 14 years old, and all I knew about BJ’s were that you licked it like a lollipop or popsicle. At the time, the criticism was hard to recover from, but eventually I prevailed, and the next blowjob I gave incorporated a few more techniques. Throughout the next couple years and boyfriends, I practiced as much as possible, and today, I don’t hear too many complaints. That said, there’s always room for growth, right? So when I heard my dear friend and Las Vegas’ own sexologist Dr. Amanda was presenting a free workshop on oral sex for him at a local sex shop, I knew I needed to sign right up.
Dr. Amanda is nothing short of amazing. Her free spirit is infectious. Her openness is admirable. Her willingness to do and/or talk about anything is just phenomenal. I don’t know if I’ve ever met anyone as judgment-free as Dr. Amanda. And for all of these reasons, in addition to her expertise as a sex educator, she is the absolute perfect person to teach sex workshops.
The two-hour seminar that was called “Oral Perfection for Him” was not only educationally informative, but fun, and offered some great new eye-opening tips to each and every one of us who came from many different walks of life.
With a couple couches lining the perimeter, and chairs placed uniformly in the middle of the room, it was a really nice and comfortable setting for the seminar. There was about 20-25 of us, ranging in age from 18 to 50-plus. The crowd was primarily women, but there were a couple male stragglers, most of whom were with their significant others. It was a diverse group, which made it interesting. I don’t consider myself that much older than the youngest person there (10 years isn’t that much, right?!), but when talking about all the different names out there for fellatio, you could see a generation gap in some of the responses, like “dome”. I’ve never heard of that before, but apparently, it’s just because I don’t listen to rap music. Who knew?
Anyway, I did learn more than just a new word for head. I’m not going to divulge it all, because Dr. Amanda is going to continue teaching these workshops. So I’ll leave it to her to spill all the good stuff, but here are a couple of the main takeaways:
USING DIFFERENT SENSATIONS
“The best blowjobs combine different sensations and techniques,” Dr. Amanda said. When it comes to different sensations, she suggested rolling an ice cube around your mouth before encompassing his penis. For a different feeling, she said to suck on a peppermint or drink some peppermint tea. The warmth mixed with the minty coolness will produce a different, somewhat tingly feeling for your man. She also recommended using bullets and vibrators. Put one under his balls, or if you only need one hand, hold a bullet under your chin so your mouth becomes the vibrator (I will definitely be trying this!).
When it comes to different mouth techniques, Dr. Amanda recommended a combination of licking, sucking and swirling. You can lick with broad strokes, lick with the tip of your tongue and a flick of your tongue. For sucking, she recommended sucking around the shaft, around his mushroom tip and gently on his balls. And for swirling, she suggested swirling your tongue around both his shaft and the tip of his head. Dr. Amanda called the combination of these three techniques the Suck, Slide and Swirl, and she recommended combining all of these mouth methods during a blowjob.
After practicing on the rainbow cocksuckers we got during the workshop, I tested the technique out on Ash —and he was a fan.
But techniques don’t just end with the tongue. Using your hands – one or both – is also necessary, Dr. Amanda advised. One can be cupping and fondling his balls while the other is caressing his shaft. One can be providing a barrier of entry for your mouth and throat while the other provides stimulation to his penis. Dr. Amanda reminded us to change up our hand motions, as well as our tongue motions. It’s not just an up and down gesture, it’s also a flick of the wrist, like a corkscrew. She recommended alternating from one hand to another, and not just going from the head to the base, but also the base to the head. Now that is something I haven’t tried, but will soon.
Talking about sex is always a good time in my book, so the class was a lot of fun. And, on top of it all, I feel like I learned a couple new tricks to add to my repertoire.
I highly recommend you check out any sex education workshops offered by Dr. Amanda, which she plans on teaching more throughout the year. I know I will be attending more of them! You can look for updates for future workshops at my site TheLilithDiaries.com, as well as here in my “Sex and Sin City” column at STRIPLV.
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